What to Do on a First Date? Choosing a Location

What to do on a first date - and where to do it.

If you’re searching around for advice about what to do on a first date, then you might already be breaking the first cardinal rule of dates, which is “don’t freak out.”  That’s really the only thing that matters.  I’ve seen some pretty lame, pretty bad first dates go down first hand.  You’d be surprised how many of those bad first dates led to a second date, and more.  The only first date that will never lead to second date is the one where you’re visibly nervous, tense, and not having fun. 

The old cliché says, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression.”  But if you’ve got a date lined up, then you’ve already made a good enough first impression and there’s no reason to let old clichés make you look like a nervous wreck on your first date.  The key thing at this point is to make a plan, follow that plan, and have fun in the process.

Choosing the Right Spot

What to do on a first date? Eat outdoors.

For a low stress first date, you should have your destination and activities planned ahead of time.  One thing you absolutely never want to do is to get stuck in a cycle of mutual indecision, like “I don’t know, what do you want to do?”  “I don’t know, what do you want to do?”  That is not what to do on a first date.  For one night, you take on all the planning and scheduling.  Get your plan together ahead of time, and you’ll be calm and confident when it counts.

If your plan involves dinner or drinks, choose your spot strategically.  If at all possible, outdoor dining is the way to go.  Eating outdoor on a busy street guarantees that you’ll never be at a loss for something to talk about.  If the weather doesn’t cooperate, the next best option is a popular, bustling restaurant with lots of activity.  That means it’s better if you’re there during the peak dinner rush – and that means you definitely need to have a reservation.

Do you know the perfect romantic spot?  A secluded candle-lit dining room?  A hidden bar with private booths and an awesome playlist?  Skip it.  Keep that perfect spot in your back pocket for now – it’ll come in very handy later.  For now, you want lots of people and lots of activity.

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What to Do on a First Date – The End Game

So you have a great dinner.  The atmosphere is lively and the energy is great.  You finish eating, but she’s definitely not ready to go home and be by herself.  So, what’s next?  If you have done your homework and planned ahead, you will have no worries.  You’ll continue to be calm and confident as the evening progresses.

Take a look at the entertainment calendar and know what’s happening on the night of your date.  Plot things out on Google Maps and see what’s nearby.  Check out Yelp reviews to find the best dessert options nearby.  If she’s in the mood for more of your company, you should already know what your options are.  Now’s not the time to run for your local weekly paper.  You lean back and say, “Well, there’s a poetry reading next door, there’s a jazz show down the street, and there’s a killer tiramisu two blocks over.”  She probably already did this research on her own, but she will be impressed that you did too.

Don’t get me wrong, you should absolutely be flexible if your date has something specific that she wants to do.  The key thing here is that you’re prepared and you know what your options are.  That way you can relax, be confident, and put your best foot forward all night long.  That’s what to do on a first date.

Matthew Clark

Matt Clark loves football, live music, and the beautiful girls of Austin, TX. After spending a decade of his life in a tiny gray cubicle, he set out on his own as an entrepreneur and a marketing consultant. These days he can be found out and about, working in whichever coffee shop or courtyard catches his eye. Some of his favorite spots are Jo's, Caffe Medici, and Strange Brew.