What Women Really Want? Here It Is, at Last!

What women really want - de-classified

I hear all the time from guys who are frustrated because they don’t understand what women really want. They want to give a woman what she wants, but they don’t know what that is. And when I ask my women friends, many times they even have a hard time saying what women really want.

I’ve been stuck there myself, and trust me, it’s not because we’re trying to be coy. Sometimes things are just very difficult to explain, especially when you’re put on the spot with a question like, “What do you really want?”

Well, the other day I came across this article where the author (a woman) explained it so well. She really got it right and I thought I would share it with you guys. So, here it is:

What Women Really Want

What women really wantThe things that women really want in a relationship are feelings (surprise, surprise!). But not just any feelings… We are looking for certain, specific feelings. There are six of them. Here they are, revealed to you for the first time, in no particular order:

  • Deep comfort
  • Inner peace
  • Sexual attraction
  • Emotional closeness
  • Intellectual stimulation
  • Fun

Seriously, this list is the most simple and most clear explanation that I’ve ever come across! This is the foundation of what most women are looking for in a man. And I can tell you, as a woman, that this list is right on target for me personally. Of course each woman is different and there will be slight variations and different priorities.

But I shared list list with my closest group of lady friends the other night and we all agreed. We would all be elated if we met a guy who made us feel all of those feelings. And we would do anything to stay with him 😉

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So, What Does this Mean for You?

You might not realize it yet, but this is powerful stuff. I’ve just given you a sneak peek into the mysterious mind of a woman. We’re behind the curtain here. This is what women really want.

This list gives you a checklist to think about when you’re getting to know a girl. If you can honestly say that you’re making a girl feel all of these feelings, then you are doing great and you shouldn’t change a thing. But chances are, when you look down this list, you’ll know which ones you need to improve on.

Use this list like a report card, and figure out where your strengths are. You should accentuate your strengths, and you should also start working on your weaknesses. If you’re great at fun, but terrible at comforting – concentrate on having fun for now, and start working on comforting. Watch some chick flicks and practice in front of a mirror.

If you can get to the point where you’re getting an “A” on all six of those feelings, the girls around you will definitely start taking notice. Study hard!

Jessica Johnson

Hi guys - I'm Jessica. I'm a 28 year old betty from Austin. By day I'm a marketing admin for a big computer company that you've probably heard of ;) By night I'm a social butterfly, an art enthusiast, and a wannabe relationship counselor. I've got a degree in psychology and I'm working on a masters in social work. I'm here to share some insights into the female side of this crazy world of love and attraction.